achieving healing - Cavities in toddlers

I want to share a personal experience with you. My life gives me plenty of opportunity to learn about so many diverse things and I am so grateful because through this, I get to grow and receive refinement and this in turn is invaluable in my work in supporting families, understanding internal dynamics.

I have encountered a really interesting avenue in holistic mama circles and babies, some sort of mystery that no one seems to know the answer to. When I was breastfeeding my son, after he was 2, I felt the need to wean him. It was emotionally difficult and I pushed it away and continued on despite feeling it was actually time to stop.

I kept on thinking that "breastfeeding is so good" and how could it harm him. I wasn't thinking about myself, or my needs. The days weren't a problem. He rarely nursed during the day, but the nights really took a toll on my emotional wellness, and he wanted it for comfort.

Suddenly, I noticed a small spot of light brown on one of his front tooth at the gumline. I was shocked. How did this happen? I realised it was my call to finally wean because the milk was sitting in this vulnerable spot for prolonged periods during the night, causing harm to his teeth.

The mama baby bond is so deep, and whatever we do, how we feel, has an impact on them. If we do not feel our best, if we do something that harms us, we also bring harm to them.

Many holistic mama circles would disagree here and say "breastfeeding" doesn't cause decay. Research says the same thing. Surely, though any food or drink sitting on teeth for prolonged periods would eventually wear the enamel down.

What I had to understand here was that this was not a dietary issue or a gut problem/imbalance, but an ENERGETIC/EMOTIONAL imbalance first. It's always energetic at the root while at the same time showing physically.

You have to look deeper than nutrition or diet or belief systems or what some say.

You have to tune in deeply and examine your relationship with your child. Examine your inner family dynamics. The issue was that I wasn’t doing what I knew was best for me. Because what is best for me, is best for my son. We are in tandem with our babies.

I stopped breastfeeding completely, immediately, and it was a very big change with both of us mourning our 'separation' from each other - breastfeeding keeps the oneness with our babies intact. We cried together. It was cathartic. My son made a huge developmental leap in the short few days that followed. He became more independent. His speech came on in leaps and bounds. Because what is there to express when you are in oneness? The decay stopped and never got worse.

I understood the importance of individuation and the delicate balance that we must navigate as the giver’s of life to our children. Just like we ‘separate’ or individuate away from the great Mother, source - so do our children have to come into their own. It is part of life. We must follow the organic rhythms of this process without holding on.

I can support you in understanding your challenges in your family unit and we turn them into growth. I am taking on new 1-1 clients right now. Send me an email to get in touch or have a look at my offerings.